I'm a big fan of documentary film, memoir, and multicultural stories. Suffice it to say, Lacey Schwartz's movie Little White Lie checked my boxes. I was floored by the many parallels between her story and my own: the scenes of her as a little brown girl, in the arms of her Jewish white mother, then growing into an ambiguously brown young woman with "black friends" and "white friends", and being the only brown face in family photos... she could have been me. But our stories are far from identical.
In every scene, Lacey reminds me so much of myself that I can only see her as a mixed brown girl. She incredibly managed to get through the first sixteen years of her life without any friends or family members questioning her lineage. When she finally confronts her father, the man who raised her, he's unable to put the truth of her paternity into words. He's clearly pained, but waits until a much later point in the film (and their lives) to divulge that his wife never confessed her affair to him. They raised Lacey as their white, Jewish daughter, because that's who they were.
I admire this family's willingness to let the cameras roll through such deeply personal moments. Ms. Schwartz and her parents expose their secret, and their hearts, in order to share this strange and powerful story. It's a great addition to the Independent Lens catalog of documentary films, one that will surely prompt new discussions about race, identity, and being mixed.
You can stream the film in its entirety at IndependentLens.org
Related memoirs: The Color of Water, by James McBride; Black, White and Jewish, by Rebecca Walker; Bulletproof Diva, by Lisa Jones.